TRAIN WRECK!

Gosh, sorry to scare any of you, but I am speaking metaphorically.
Have you ever seen a friend or family member going on to do something that consequently will cause them harm and I am speaking, emotional, physical, financial BIG MISTAKE?
And you felt in your heart of hearts that you wanted to scream with all you hold near dear, at the top of your lungs, “DON’T DO IT!”
But you held back knowing that they were an adult and you had no right to assume that you knew what was best for them, hmm? Since you all, as I do, know what ‘to assume’, truly means; refresher course for any newbies, “making an ass of you and me”!
Later, much later you regretted that after the dust cleared from their figurative crash-up and you felt just awful since you didn’t intervene?
Talk about being in between a rock and hard place, for you literals I am again referring metaphorically/figuratively to that concept, but that does give you a mental image of what that would be.
My family members that had that business failure well I heard back from one of their siblings today an older one of the female one, and she did try to tell them, but they would not listen!
Whew, glad I didn’t say anything, then.
I suppose not saying things sometimes is a better way to handle a problem, but you all know me that is not my way!
Fortunate, for them that the secrecy of them doing what they did set our estrangement in motion that time and so I had no real desire to say a word after that, good thing too.
Have any of you over the years had to argue with yourself on how to handle anything?
I don’t mean out loud, but weighing the pluses and minuses on how or why to do something?
Writing things down in two columns seem to work for me.
And when the pluses outweigh the minuses that’s when you should jump into the ‘whatever’ it is you are trying to decide, and no one should tell you either way.
So I answered my own question about the ‘TRAIN WRECK’, concept there is nothing anyone can do.
Oh sure with children we have to tell them, and the mentally handicapped, or people who may go broke and have to live on the street… well, I guess at times we should step in and up to the plate and interfere, but many would take it as just that meddling.
Fine lines and you thought they were just around your eyes, kidding!
Sure we have to approach such things with humor and care and respect of whom we are dealing with and try to be cautious and restraining in our verbiage of how we say what we want them to understand…oh darn!
Is it worth it?
They are just people we see every once and a while and it is their lives and we don’t have to care so much about them and what they do and if they want to screw it all up, do we?
In the end, I suppose we are our brother’s keepers, and sisters, husbands and wives, and mothers, and fathers and cousins, you get the idea…
But we all have the power to decide what is right for us and them too!
On that somewhat ridiculous idea of what a ‘TRAIN WRECK’ really means to me, allow me to be the first to wish you all a very happy good night and ask you to kindly count all your blessings and share all those overages and we will too!

And next time please be here or be square, ya hear?


PS I am not immune, since I too have had a few ‘TRAIN WRECKS’, metaphorically speaking that is…and so I know from whence I speak!
And perhaps I would have liked a meddler, or not?