Friends are to be there for you when you need that pat on the back

Mostly a friend laughs and cries with you, and they may offer you a hand up when you fall literally or metaphorically or they just have the ability to say the right thing or a kind word now and then when your day has gone into the pits...
But in reality our friends are who we can depend on when we share our deepest feelings good or bad.
Others say that a true friend is someone you may not have seen in years but can pick up a conversation with them as if it were only yesterday as if no time had passed at all.

Sadly for most of us we must wait until something in our lives significantly happens for us to know just whom we really can rely on.
Many horrors and happiness’s that are sadly or joyfully our commonalties such as births, deaths, a loss of a job, weddings or divorces or any of a number of other miseries or blissful trials that are all part of the humanness of all living beings.

The only way I know I can survive in this world of tests, which is what I do believe that all of these things are is to know that this too will pass. It’s in our own personal histories, we are survivors!
If something new comes up, well, just diagnose it in your brain for similarities of other times that it might have happened but in perhaps a slightly different way; got that?
I found making two columns what’s the worst that can happen and what’s the best?
It puts it into perspective; really you must try it if you haven’t.
Next you try to come up with resolutions for all the worst things by also writing them down, and you will be pleasantly surprised at how smart you are and how less frightening it all can be!
Or if you are lucky enough to speak with a coherent, that is one with still all their faculties, octogenarian they will say they are fearless, and you know why?
Because they have made themselves bullet proof with knowing how to react to everything and anything with intelligence, calm and grace; gotta love the elderly. I believe its called coping mechanisms, which I do remember from my psychology classes.
Problems are only as big as you make them; it’s the solutions that may be small if you give yourself time to really figure it all out why they may at first pretend to be elusive.

But I have learned it’s like physics, which I did not take but I do know one thing for sure that for every action there is an equal positive or negative reaction; and that’s a pretty safe bet. LOL
And in life you have that power to react with pulling your hair out, and going crazy or by stopping and taking a breath and thinking about all the possibilities on how to solve it.

I just feel so sorry for those who have never ever been challenged with the ups and downs in life. Why you ask?
Because they have no experience to rely on to help them out of these tribulations of course!
Although, there is rarely a truly untouched golden child anymore it appears that the world of commonalties in all peoples has become that less unique.

Talking to others about what ails us is not anymore considered airing your dirty laundry, because let’s face it who doesn’t have any? There are some who think that still which amazes me, because I wonder if they are metaphorically living under a rock.
I do know that some try to handle bad things by using denial or ignoring the problem, but let’s face it folks it usually catches up to them and becomes much larger so I say face it head on and get down to it and take care of it however you can, but we must all learn that’s the best way.
Here’s my analogy if you see a child running into traffic you don’t watch, you go get that child and save its’ life! Same thing with any other severe problem in life, you must tackle it head on and try your best and even if you fail which I didn’t bring up but that is always a possibility you know in your heart that you did all you could do! And that alone is a reward in life, at least you tried with all your might and you will never look back to any regrets because of that.


On that too preachy me just trying to subliminally help a dear friend I will wish you all a good night and to all count those blessings and we will too!

PS I saw the skin doc about my shoulders and it was not cancer but possibly pre so he froze it and all is well; well as soon as the blisters go away!

Slowing down so I see...

Come one come all to the Facebook page and become my FRIEND!
From yesterday to today we have slowed to only an additional ten, 118 to be clear and exact.

But I must admit my sociology experiment is going rather nicely.
Today, I tested the waters of temperament of these new people into my life for whom knows how long…and I told each of the ones hovering around on IM on the page, “To get back to work!”
And you would be amazed at the reactions I got.
Silence, no one said a word back to me, must have had harsh Mommas and I scared the bejeebers out of them all! LOL
You know what was surprising though many did get off temporarily, the page that is; now stop that you double entendre peeps again get those minds out of the gutter!

Then you know where you can put that question out there for the world to ponder, what’s on your own mind section on the page, well, I asked my multitudes if they were really networking or gold bricking?
Yeah, I did that.
And you know what; so far no replies, not too big a surprise.
Hmm… perhaps I should try more subtly.

I did feel the need to become a wee bit more topical and so I tried a provocative question right off the front page of any of their local news rags, “How many of you are really keeping track of how the oil spill is progressing in the clean up process?”
Now that you would think would spur the imaginations of the many intelligent amigos and amigas that call themselves my newbie buds?

While writing this evening I acquired another buddy!
Periodically I do hear the, “You've got mail” voice, and will stop to see what it could be.
Human nature being what it is.
You know that is why we in all twelve of the years that we have been connected, aw come on I mean online I haven't had the heart to go to a less friendly sounding provider, silly, huh?
Not really, human nature and all.

This just in: BP is now attaching the new cap to the well!
Well, we will see how that’s going to work, huh? Leave the puns in tack folks.

Back to my agenda of befriending a good portion of the population of the world.
And utilizing this venue for a sociology experiment it is so exciting to know that this year is mapped out for me and what my providence is to be.
That’s only if I don't reach my goal of one million by the end of this year.
I suppose I could extend it if need be.


Oh I forgot to tell you my most nervy crazy move in my scolding mode today… I told one of my favorite authors that he should not only get back to work but that he should because I finished his most current book and I am not patiently waiting for his newest one!

And so on that shameless revolting confession I will bid you all a very good night and to all count those blessings and we will too!