And even though I act, at times, like a know-it-all I do
know that others know much more than me on so many different levels and topics
it is truly amazing and with patience their knowledge could and should be
tapped!
The problem is… with my journalistic training, if only for
that short time, we are all brainwashed to ask those five extremely important
questions of who, what, where, why, and when?
Sure you all know that those questions when speaking to
regular folks might be considered of you of being way too nosy, hmm?
So, I have found over the last several years, after being
told one time by a woman in a doctor’s waiting room who told me just what I
said above, that I was way too nosy, which shut me down…I was hurt, but I knew
in retrospect why she felt that, thought that and was exactly right about me.
My mode of getting to know people at one time used to be not
unlike an interview style of a news woman or newspaper gal.
Those questions though have gotten me into too much trouble
over the years and so I have since become the one to tell it all, whether
anyone truly wants to know or not.
Some times it does work where when people who feel they know
so much about you then feel comfortable to tell you a little if not more about
themselves, and others are just plain bored to bits and run for their lives!
Well, not physically, metaphorically, by staying away, wait
that is actual, therefore physically, any-who they then make sure not to ever
again engage you in conversation or ask any questions of you with fear of you
not stopping your litany and of you not stopping your litany, and on and on…
nope not a typo duplication, a truism, ha!
These days I do so love the idea of meeting people but my
procedural ways to progress in getting to know them has a dual fear. Of not
showing the right amount of interest in what they are saying and trying to
interject with appropriate questions or knowledgeable additions to show that I
am listening and can relate!
Balance is a hard thing when you have either worked in
managerial , teaching, and owner types businesses and volunteerism positions
over your lifetime careers…You have the disadvantage of needing to be in
control and knowledgeable as also informative.
Or as my shortened stint with a few by-lines and interviews
for the newspaper, still being in charge, but due to my somewhat iffy listening
skills I always tried to have a note pad to write down info/answers or a tape
recorder, yep that is the way it was done way back then! Having a photographer
to verify things afterwards or an editor with you was wonderful too!
I did have a couple of times I was left to my own devices
thus the recorder camera and notebook!
I should have taken up the practice earlier on in my life
for it was a pure joy doing that.
But I did enjoy the promotion business I had been in too, but
neither choice would have been very profitable for me.
I did not have the credentials to become a staff reporter,
and although promotion did not need any special training and it was a party going
to work daily it was a commission position with a woman who was not totally
honest with paying the monies she had owed me. Let’s put it this way she had to
ask her husband for additional funds that she said were for me but paid the
rent and phone bills, finally, of her office instead of me and when they cut off
her phone she used our bag cell phone and racked up an enormous bill of over
$600 bill and refused to pay it. Foolishly we loaned her the phone to keep her
business afloat… and that my friends was over twenty-years ago! Her comment to
me was that I was a volunteer, which sadly at first I had said I would work for
free until I learned the business , but after I had booked some bands on my own
and she had paid me those commissions I felt I was NO LONGER a volunteer!
Then she owed me thousands for more work and refused to pay
me… sorry it was a nasty experience in a job that I really did love…
So many mistakes I have made over the years with poor
judgment of people, too trusting…
Perhaps that is why they all baffle me and hurt me still
even at this ripe old age.
Hubby and I have been fine with just the two of us lately and
now some new folks want to be friendly, but it is difficult for me to go into
these things full force…
But I am open and so is Hubby, I think…
Old friends are there but distant, literally yep only on
Facebook, and safe since if we find something we don’t like we don’t say
anything and the same with short conversations are much easier, since we know
or remember the way we all were and when, what we were doing and why we were
doing it and even where!
See, I incorporated all those questions into conversing with
my ole schools chums from Gosh elementary school some, quite a few actually and
one from high school … and even a friend from the 1970’s from our first
neighborhood as adults with our youngins; how wonderful and of course my
cousins, so many to count from firsts, seconds and even one removed…!
Not to mention all the new friends, ones that are becoming family
too!
Facebook has brought us to this point in our lives that it
gives so many of us the joy of catching up… or finding out without fear those
answers to questions that might be a bit difficult face to face… uh oh!
NOSY ME!
Yep, I have been shut down on there too and unfriended when
people do not see the expression on your face when asking or saying something…
Seeing people up close and personal can never take the place
of this techno marvel but we all know that and although fear has not been my
friend I must learn restraint, someday!
On that note of whatever floats your proverbial boat allow me
to be the very first to wish all of you a very happy good night and ask all of
you to kindly count all your blessings and share all those overages with you
know who and we will too!
And next time please be here or be square, ya hear!
PS Just thought I would let you all know, it was 92 degrees for our
high today and so after one P.M. the pool was back up into the mid-eighties
and so I was back in the pool again doing all my exercises!
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