Posting pictures of your Moms and you is ...

...Absolutely so lovely, warm, touching and sad too for me...Hubby too if truth be told.

My Mom, as most know has been gone since February 15, 1982 due to a massive stroke in only eleven and half hours...my Dad passed away a little over four years later from his brain stem thrombosis, a stroke that most die within the first twenty-four to forty-eight hours, but he hung in for five and half weeks and lost his battle by succumbing to pneumonia, being allergic to penicillin, not much back then to give to him and so he passed away on May 11, 1986, and yes it was Mother's Day that year too.

And that is why tomorrow will be a bittersweet memory for me...
Oh Hubby, his Mom as far as we know is still alive, she was ninety-three in January if so, but she is up in Pennsylvania in a nursing home, that we have not been told where and even if we knew she has severe dementia. Hubby and his sister do not communicate and she is the one who put MOM into the nursing home; as well as her Mother-in-Law, amazingly she takes control of their finances and his brother has supposedly been left out of the loop too... This woman hasn't worked for years and her husband who was an executive, VP, has a lesser job, now somehow they make ends meet with their three adult/children living at home, with their two Moms warehoused in nursing homes, seems weird to me and very curious. 
I have no say in any of this I was informed by all involved, it seems ridiculous to me!
After all I am only a sister-in-law and daughter-in-law, for nearly forty-four years!And knew them nearly four years before that! They were both in our wedding party too!
But my in-laws are significantly anti-Semitic, in my opinion, as well as politically polarized from me, his sis is A-political, she could care less, and his brother is so far to the right, it is scary!

Though it makes me sad to know a parent is alive and not acknowledged, mainly due to so many adverse reasoning's by too many people arguing over the right way to handle things.

Hubby feels his hands are tied on this matter, and I very well may be  in  trouble for telling about this after all these years, four now, since we last saw his Mom, while she was here.

Any-who, allow me to wish all of you a very happy good night and ask you all to kindly count all your blessings and share those overages and we will too!

And next time please be here or be square, ya hear?

Pop ups slow you down.

Odd sentence/title ten twenty years ago it would seem more difficult to understand, true?
Now most anyone who is techno savvy gets it, I suspect.
Even if you're not, you would understand the ramifications of too many pop ups, hmm?
I sadly had to ask for help.
That is to stop the problem and fortunately this computer is still under warranty, till December.
And so I contacted them and within less than an hour my computer was refreshed!
Unfortunately, two programs were taken out of the mix, my current browser and my newest anti-virus, and so...
With this slight dilemma I had to contact my paid for anti-virus and that was reloaded and so was I able to self load my browser, whew!
All is well now.

And hopefully uneventful experiences will continue from now on or as long as those darn annoyances will not reoccur.
The reason they were so aggravating was not only due to them interfering in navigating and reading online interesting stories or just looking at before and after decorated rooms, which I love to do.
But also on this when trying to publish or to read my blog.

This whole process took less than two hours and I do believe it was worth it and it was free!

Our Number One Son called back today and said that they are bringing me special dark Belgian chocolate, most dark chocolate is loaded with anti-oxidants, and should be eaten every once in a while for if no other reason than that! Although, being a bit of a chocoholic it is something that is not safe in the home with me!
A little bit is healthy; too much is fattening!
And right now, with me at this overly generous size it sadly is not a too good of an idea to be too well supplied. I told number one to remind me to share when they are here, not just say thank you and put  it away in the fridge, ya know?

I learned years ago when guests, even family, bring edible gifts they should best be served when they are still there. And it's not a matter of proper etiquette, which I am not that sure about these days anymore, but I think it is better to not have certain foods, deserts, wines, or what have you that are perishable around too long, really. A matter of conservation would be more like it, since when you are large and your spouse or both have medical issues that are not supposed to eat or drink certain things than tasting and sharing are preferable to make sure that nothing is wasted.
Just my thought, and I asked Number One to remind me to share, a shame at my age to have to ask your first born to do that, but I shamelessly did.

On that note of whatever, allow me to be the very first to wish all of you a very happy good night and ask all of you to kindly count all your blessings and share those overages and we will too!

And next time please be here or be square, ya hear!

I will keep this brief...

Had my thoracic MRI with and without contrast, according to the techs it was only supposed to take about forty minutes, but it took nearly an hour.

Our Number One Son called Hubby's cell phone with the thought possibly of creating a surprise for Mother's Day,( he always calls mine when we go out and he can't reach us at home) but we were in Advance Imaging's waiting room, and it is the same place I called Advantage Imaging by mistake, and apparently with all the equipment there, there was static on his phone, never happens at home, any-who he couldn't hear so well. I sort of think that Number One didn't want me to know, but Hubby yelled his name rather loud and told him where we were and said that is great and told me and asked Number One to call back tomorrow, since we will be home all day, oh well, so much for surprises! The more important fact is that he and his gal are coming for a visit, and that is a gigunda yay!

The MRI tech was from Point Pleasant NJ and that is where our younger son was born and her name was the same as our daughter-in-laws, how about that for coincidence?

We picked up dinner at Bob Evans, me, flounder and Hubby, turkey.
This time I lost the back to my earring in the car and Hubby has not yet given up looking, but it is stainless and oh so small!

On that note of Hubby's perseverance and so now allow me to be the very first to wish all of you a very happy good night and ask you to kindly count all your blessings and share those overages and we will too! 

 And next time please be here or be square, ya hear!

PS I suppose I should leave my earrings home, hmm?

Turmoil, exasperation and triumph!

As anyone knows who has been keeping up with 'the Tobi', my  pseudonym, these last few weeks I have been going through tests that apparently will inform my new neuro with 'the how', to proceed.

I held up my end of the process by conforming to the concept of making the arrangements to get the required tests, blood work and MRI's.
Unfortunately, as usual with me, there was a glitch.
Apparently, the medical transcribers were not telling all of the reasoning for the two additional MRI's, with that reasoning being due to me in pain and the new doc looking for the cause via more lesions and once established how to treat me.
Once I was able to tell the approval department, the one who contacts, MY insurance with the why, which seemed to be NOT completely to be specified in my transcripts, and that is why the cervical MRI was delayed and I am now fully scheduled for my two remaining MRI's, one tomorrow and the last one, the cervical, on Monday that is unless there is a cancellation to move it up earlier!

I did have concerned decent people working with me; the first woman Diana deals with the approval from the insurance companies and is responsible for listening to me on the reason of my why and how long this had been an issue, two weeks today! Georgia is the scheduler who is willing to move me up if there is a cancellation before Monday, decent compassionate people.

They both work at the MRI center, Advantage Imaging here in Port Charlotte, just up the road a piece it has what is known as a 3 Tesla open MRI machine, my last few years the other place I was going to was only 1.5 or 2.0 Tesla.I found this info that explains the difference: http://www.3timaging.com/why-3-tesla-mri-ct-xray-mri-imaging-center-morton-grove-riverside-chicago-illinois.htm

And so I guess the final notable thing that we know to be true, except when shopping for clothes, outlets and thrift shops are good too, medical wise is you get what you pay for...this machine is twice the accuracy as the one that I was examined by previously.

On that note of delayed hopefulness, allow me to be the very first to wish all of you a very happy good night and kindly count all your blessings and share those overages and we will too!


Next time please be here or be square, ya hear!

"Telling someone the truth is a loving act."

Tonight we picked up our Chinese dinner together at China City after we called it in, in transit just past our home from my two MRI's.

We have been home for a little over an hour.
And my last fortune cookie had the only message that made any desired now sense to either of us, and so I made it tonight's title, thus the quotes and my how it expresses my always sentiment, as many know.

I took my jewelry in a Zip-Lock to be held safe in Hubby's pocket, to put on after I went through the MRI machine, feel funny not wearing wedding bands and such, but a BIG mistake putting earrings on in a moving car, and sure enough one dropped somewhere in the car...
No fear Hubby Super Finder Man Extraordinaire is here! He once found my diamond that fell out of my engagement ring in our busy restaurant behind the counter and another time prior to that in our sons' toy box!  Of course each time the ring had to be reset.
And many other items over the years too, too many to recount!
Today, a little while ago, an hour after we arrived  back, he found my ancient black onyx earring    from college that matched our class ring, black onyx with LIM embedded in the stone with gold band it was eventually placed on my charm bracelet as a remembrance.

So now I have accomplished my with and without contrast brain and lumbar MRI's still waiting on the cervical, the thoracic was approved...should be Thursday. The new neuro did get back my day before the hospital blood work, I checked.
I suppose my new doc will be seeing me or talking to me when all my tests he ordered are a faits accomplis, and so this impatient patient will be on hold in the days to come, not so easy its been over two weeks for this latest problem! 

On that note that I cannot quote, allow me to be  the very first to wish you all a very happy good night and ask you to kindly count all your blessings and share those overages and we will too!

And next time please be here or be square, ya hear!

PS the restaurant gave us three fortune cookies again with a rather small order... and I bet you have been hanging on the edge of your seats wondering what those other two others said that I felt were not that understandable, the sort of things that make you shake your head...Well, maybe you will get them and so here they are,"The usefulness in a cup is in its emptiness." Okay, its no good full, unless it has what you want in it, so empty is better? "Look for someone's strength instead of weakness." But of course in parenting and as well as in management!

My life and how it goes...

Dizziness and nausea prevail as well as bi-lateral shoulder, arm, and back pain, legs are taking a short respite. My nose has been running and sniffling appears to be back on a timely course of additional medication of Mucinex once again, started Saturday, and just for fun I had a slight fever when it had been taken at the internist's office as of today, of 100.1 F degrees, oddly enough I was wearing my cooling vest at the time, from home to there and outside again, did not take it off and I found myself sweating. The nurse suggested I start wearing a mask whenever I go out, since I seem to be so susceptible  to others' germs and illness, with my immune system appearing to not be functioning so well.
But my hospital blood work was, "good", even my highs and  lows were nothing to write home about...
My doctor wanted to know why I didn't have the day before the hospital blood work, neuro one, done at her facility or why my MRI's weren't scheduled using theirs...I had no answer, it appears there could be a turf war with my docs over me and my tests!
She kept saying that she IS my primary, and she has been seeing me longer and asked how many times that I had seen my new neuro, two times, I divulged, most recently, not counting years ago...
It got a bit scary when she said he better not be checking my cholesterol; that's hers!
Actually, its mine!

I just want to know what's going on and get better, ya know?
This neuro needs to see every test before he designs a plan to fix this!

So I called the MRI place to verify all my MRI's and three have been approved, but one is still being waited on for approval...brain, lumbar tomorrow and the thoracic region already A OK, but my cervical is on hold, waiting...all with and without lighting up my reasoning for being treated for my pains in numbness, burning, twisting etc. must I go on... I sound like a broken record to myself, G-d what I must sound like to all of you! FORGIVE PLEASE!

At least I didn't fall forty feet from hanging from my hair as a professional in that field! OMG help those aerialists; I understand some are in critical condition, pray!  Wonder how it was able to happen?

On that note of putting things in a bit more perspective, allow me to be the very first to wish all of you a  very happy good night and ask you to kindly count all your blessings and share your overages with so many in this world who really could use them and we will too!

And next time please be here or be square, ya hear!

PS Amy Adams definitely deserved her Oscar, she was great in American Hustle!

I am so happy to see that many found ...

...what I copied and pasted last night of interest, but it was a small part of the whole story, as so much in life is...
Unfortunately, my problems of the previous week and since prior to my momentous hospital visit have not been alleviated by my consumption of the Gabapentin at 1200 MG. and 40 MG. of the Baclofen daily that had done the job previously in the pain department.

Tomorrow, I go to the GP/Internist due to the hospital visit's recommended follow-up.
This week I also have been scheduled for four MRI's prior to the 'vertigo', diagnosis.
Odd how discontinuing those prescribed, by the hospital meds, I felt considerably better that is nausea, dizziness and vomiting wise.
It is true that I am slightly dizzy and still have a tiny weeny bit of nausea, but those meds amplified what I had going on.
I am currently experiencing a back spasm and burning twisting bi-lateral leg pain!

Ugh and so although I just took my second dose of Gabapentin 300MG. it has not had time to respond I do believe!

And that will do it for me tonight I suspect, and so allow me to say that while all this has been going on we, Hubby and I have been watching American Hustle and in my opinion it is a hand wiggle from side to side...I'll explain better tomorrow,okay?
Also allow me to wish you all a very happy good night and kindly count all your blessings andwe will too!

Next time please be here or be square, ya hear!