Ups
and downs and downs and ups, such is life, love, smiles, tears, belly laughs
and anything else one might imagine after forty-seven years of being
together and forty-three years of legally being together!
Life and
relationships have cycles, not unlike the moon's, and as my Dad used to say
"it is always darkest before the dawn" and "what goes up must
come down". Well, maybe Dad didn't say all that, but he was a very wise
man.
"Nobody's
perfect, least of all you, but I am." Bud dump bum... was another one
of his jewels. Mom used to say, "never go to bed mad; always makeup."
They
had a loving relationship which was memorable... and sadly I am not them!
Sure
I always love Hubby and him me, but I am too outspoken and emotional compared
to my parents and so our relationship has been anything but smooth sailing, and
to tell you the truth we argue loudly and at times with much colorful verbiage!
But we always kiss and say goodnight with love! You see we both have
strong personalities that can clash and that is more than likely why we also
love one another, no wishy washy here ever!
And
these last several years have not been what either of us signed on for, chronic
illness...sure we said so in our vows, sickness and health, richer,
poorer but do any of us really want to believe that could happen, no
of course not, not ever!
Any-who,
you know something, do you want to know what true love is?
Sticking
together in spite of hard times, sure I complain and he does too and it's okay,
it can clear the air and usually find common ground if done right!
What
my Dad said about not being perfect... duh, is true for all of us and once we
realize that anything goes with understanding our quirkiness; for Robert, people who
originated out of Paramus NJ are not the only ones! Hubby is from Oradell
and he is literally FULL OF IT! Quirky that is, or was that flaky, Gosh, I
forgot. Not too different.
Anyway, forgiveness
is what is important too; going back to not being perfect...
Enough
already! Whatever we have been doing seems to work for us, but
relationships are trial and errors and you must have fun finding out what works
for you!
Happy
Valentine's Day to all of you!
Moving
on...
To
our excellent adventure
Our
morning started late...
We
left the compound of our palatial eleven hundred square foot estate home
on its quarter acre, with a mini 8'X16' Olympic sized swimming
pool, fish pond stocked with five grown Goldfish,
on a saltwater waterfront that is only five minutes to the
harbor via our 20' yacht!
Departing
at eleven A.M. to where, you so boldly ask?
The
GYM/REHAB! Hubby's initial idea, but I surprised him with agreeing and getting
ready to go this morning an hour before I had to be, ha!
I
tried everything again, equipment wise, the arm-cycle, the total gym, the pull
down thingy, but I was only able to do a couple of minutes on them,
BUT I DID A COUPLE OF MINUTES! Better than no minutes, hmm?
Tired
and worn out it was time to go TO LUNCH!
We had
both had become brainwashed by the Red Lobster commercials with it being
lobster month or something like that! So this frugal gal with her Hubby moseyed
on up to our local restaurant that bears that name, Red Lobster. I ordered by
desire not cost, lobster tail, shrimp and scallops all grilled, rice pilaf and
Caesar salad and broccoli came with it too! Hubby had the four course meal with
soup, salad and broiled Tilapia and desert. I shared with Hubby the
lobster and scallops; since he is done with shrimp, too much we used to buy and we
still do make Tilapia, but he likes it, we have ours Blackened/spicy.
I was thinking ahead so when he had his dessert served the server brought
two spoons for the ice cream and brownie that I told Hubby to eat all but a
spoonful of each! That was enough and PS although my dinner came with drawn
butter I did not use it at all, only a little bit of fresh lemon juice, actually
it was so tasty au naturalle that I did inhale it with mucho gusto, heavenly!
We
decided that their lobster bisque would be perfect for our dinner and that is
what we did brought that home from there!
Oh,
why do lunch for an anniversary, well when you have Valentine's Day as your
date, well here’s the deal folks…lunch is less crazy and usually without a wait
or much of one, ya know?
I
put my watch on when we leave the house, but forgot until we were out that the
battery was dead so our last stop was Batteries Plus and yes they are
quite competitively priced, in other words: not bad at all!
Now I
realize many are more than likely trying to figure out why I considered this to
be K and T’s Excellent Adventure? First of all K is the initial of Hubby’s true
identity and T is me here or there or anywhere, got that?
And
the idea of leaving the home-front after too many months of NOT or going out
for just the doctor or MRI… so getting to have some fun is quite my PERSPECTIVE
on what I like to label OUR EXCELLENT ADVENTURE and the details of what that is,
is above in both vignettes of my essays…
On
that love note of life is a bowl of cherries and no I do not feel that I am
living in the pits, but they do show up on occasion, for us all, and that is
why having any joy in one’s life with that special someone is MONUMENTAL and
should be expressed and celebrated when that fluke of nature occurs, or not!
Sweet
dreams to all!
