Thursday, January 30, 2014

Skeptical

Is being cautious, and some might even say not trusting, yes a given.

When we are young our brains are like sponges and we suck up any and all of our environment and maintain that information in individual vaults in our brains. And at those young ages most that we see and hear we believe for no other reason than to not have any reason or history of disbelief in those vaults as of yet.

We were, well I really don't know how to say this other than we have two sons that for one reason or another had their I.Q's tested while in first grade and number one's came back as a 145 plus and then little brother's came back as 155 plus! Since I was never into any of that except having a first cousin who had gotten a perfect score on her SAT's and a best friend in college who was member of MENSA and part of a Think Tank and graduated high school at sixteen, oh and my Mom's best friend's son read the newspaper at three and did graduate high school at fourteen and college at eighteen. This was all new territory for me and Hubby, and we were of a bit above average I.Q's, mine as an adult I took a test and it was only a non-bragging 120, but not geniuses by any means, 130 starts that, I think. People would be kind or funny and would say they must take after you and I would come back with a no, and say no it's a weird fluke, I believe it skips a generation! And smile. I always knew this was not going to be easy. So I would always gush about our sons successes to them, since holding back was difficult. Number one son who never seemed confident enough in spite of what we all knew and would say, but our younger son who also excelled and he reacted much differently, by going over the top with confidence to the point I found myself reeling him back in with warning him that there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance, ya know?
 Again with a smile...

They had musical instruments, piano, keyboard, guitars, and drums from toddlers  at home libraries as story time at home and at school and team and individual sports as well as excellent schools, consequently they were well rounded. They both attended pre-school, with number one being able to attend Montessori pre-school then regular nursery and in a neighbor's home since she had recently become a Mom too and was a retired Montessori teacher. We had moved when our younger son was just two and half and he also went for two years to pre-school.

And as parents we trusted them to make good decisions and they always did, especially as teens, when most had to be watched more closely, we felt that ours were capable to make good choices and trustworthy.
We met all their friends and they would stay over and we would take them to movies and dinners. And if there was something askew we knew it could always be discussed and it was.

Today they are independent successful adults with women in their lives that they treat with love an respect, the younger one is married to an attorney, but number one is in a long term relationship with a psychologist with two masters in her field, both their equals.

To me that is my bragging rights.
Although, not all is as it seems, nothing is perfect in life.

And so some things about our sons are personal as many may have noticed they prefer their anonymity, so vagueness is what I try to do for their privacy.

Hypocritical, neither are on social media and feel negatively about it.

So perhaps being a skeptic is inborn?
Who knows but the discussion on nature and nurture will go on long after I am gone...

Love and the need for contact with those whom you love will never change and missing them oh so much will continue to cause a yearning in all parents hearts when children are far away.  

Thank goodness for Hubby and him being tried and true, and on that sweet note allow me to be the very first to wish all of you a very happy good night and ask all of you to kindly count all your blessings and share those overages with you know who and we will too!

And next time please be here or be square, ya hear! 

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