Wednesday, July 3, 2013

"The Blame Game"


We as human beings on this planet have this oddity about us that we all share the need to know why something happens that is what is the cause and affect of something.
And by all things logical and good that is a wonderful characteristic for all of us to have and for some of us it is a full time job.

But how about if we put on our thinking caps and try our darnedest to explain why if smoking kills everyone and anyone who is foolish enough to do it… like the fellow who started at the mere age of eighteen and died at his way too young age of twenty-three of lung cancer, but why is there a ninety-eight year old woman who smoked all of her life who lives?

Is it possible like in many bible chapters referring to destiny that the young man was designed to die when the elderly woman was not? I am the last to quote the bible, being nearly Agnostic, but a Jew who vaguely recalls her Sunday school and Hebrew school classes.
Speculation or perhaps science has the answer like they recently found with the BRCA1 and BRCA2 genes determining your chances of whether or not you will get cancer? Are those not unlike what composes up our DNA or Chromosomes, which could all be assumed to mean our lives are all predetermined what will actually be?
Sure we want to blame something when our health goes awry, but could it really be something that just is and that is not in our control?
The true allegory above about  the two smokers I brought up to a research physician at the University of South Florida that I had the pleasure of being invited to attend for their most recent findings having to do with them being in forefront of arthritis research in the earlier part of this century. But I did get to speak to him privately during a break, and I mentioned the story above, as I was still smoking at that time and that with my own father’s story about outliving my Mom by nearly ten years and he being the smoker who was not allowed to smoke indoors due to my Mom being allergic to smoke and therefore no one could blame her death on his second hand smoke.
I myself have been baffled over my own stupidity of smoking for over forty years, but without any lung or heart disease, just that anomaly of the TIA, mini stroke, discovered back in 2006, determining my final realization that I should quit before it was too late! According to the neuro doc who found it on my MS MRI along with my lesions, at the time, he recommended for me to take 81 MG. of aspirin that I have taken ever since. PS this month on the eleventh it will be seven years that I quit smoking.
My Mom never ever smoked and no one could smoke in our home and she died of a stroke, and she was not obese at 125 and had always eaten healthy for our generation, no fatty foods, mostly all chicken and fish, vegetables and fruit were always abundant in our home and this is from a woman who was born in 1911 and died in 1982, a week before her 71st birthday! My father was born in 1907 and died in 1986, Mother’s Day that year and he was not obese either, at around 170 and both died of strokes, no high blood pressure, but oddly enough with what they ate so carefully, they both had high cholesterol! Although, after my Mom died, Dad did enjoy his golden arches stops a bit too much.
What I am getting at, I have been doing research for over forty years on illness and why some die and others fair well or never ever get anything. Also my mother had breast cancer as well as Rheumatoid Arthritis, which I oddly enough do not have either. I was the fourth person in my family with Multiple Sclerosis, and my aunt and uncle also had it, who were my mom’s in-laws, and my first cousin who is two years older than me, from my mom’s brother who did not have it either! See, something has to trigger it to come out from wherever it resides within us, environment, paints? Both my aunt and uncle painted, she was a trained artist who studied at F.I.T in NYC and he was a house painter and we all know that back before the 1970’s lead was in most all paints! Now they have me doing it! OY VEY!
Many of my MS friends are looking for a cure and blaming everything from milk to animal protein to gosh who knows, things cause inflammation, and other issues with our bodies, sounds probable and possible, but I am no scientist!
Many feel medication is toxic and I am sure it is; how else can it kill disease?
And that we are all an indecent experiment for big pharmaceutical companies to get rich and I am sure that they are not in the business to get poor and neither are the vitamin pill companies either!
Or the health food companies or any other non-profit businesses, which is a contradiction, oxymoron, just by saying it!
Let’s face it we will badger the concepts of wanting to know 'why' for as long as we know that we have a disease that as of to date has no cure, and to  be honest and true I am not saying not to try to find the answer for the cure, but some things to me sound ridiculous when too many have not had the same experiences to dignify the reasoning, believe me I too have tried to make heads or tails out of any of this…and I am way past the, ‘why me’, stage.
And that’s just it, forums to express our need or desire to share new information have been around since time began and before that too I am more than sure, counting it that is.
But as all things are possible, I am rooting for those who bat around ideas, it’s just the ‘blame game’ I don’t get.
Many seem to me that they waste more time worrying about what they ingest than what else they could be doing with their time, like enjoying life, more balance that's all!
We all are, figuratively, punching a clock here and even the healthy have been shot down by lunatics and run down by buses and so even though I do understand, since if it ever comes to pass I will hopefully also be helped by their ‘think tank’ formats and that is a very, very good thing… but I will try hard to distract myself to the more sublime, since who has that much time?
I know, I do…but I truly feel those kids will figure it out while I am finding me, all over again…!
Knowing that at times I only make sense to me, I hope that somehow this was crystal clear, since it is too important not to be.
On those many notes that I hope you wrote down, allow me to be the very first to wish all of you a very happy good night and ask you to kindly count all your blessings and share all those overages with you know who and we will too!
And next time please be here or be square, ya hear!

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