Monday, April 22, 2013

As we grow together; we don't grow together, but not apart...



Now that I totally confused you, I thought I would try harder than ever before to explain myself, ha, but here I go… i.e. in what that title meant.
Hubby and I have been together now for, Gosh, since August of 1967 when we first met, but only have been married since February of 1971.
And in many marriages of long endurance you ebb and flow into similar patterns and similar ills…
Although, Hubby’s is more genetic, his high blood pressure that is, his mom and brother both have it and mine is more weight gain related, we are both on medication for it.
His was found out the hard way, with a visit, back in 2009, to the hospital with concern he was having a heart attack, fortunately, that was not the case, but his blood pressure was extremely high. The next day he went to the doctor’s office to get put on proper medications and to set up all the tests needed to rule out other problems. His medication was much like mine, in fact a couple were identical, but since his problem was more severe he had two additional ones that are different and his dosage is four times a day, compared to my two times a day for that particular problem. We are both on the same cholesterol medication and dosage.
Today, Hubby almost forgot to take his one dose at 12:15 P.M., which he has been diligent in taking all these years, and asked me why he felt no different without it.
There is something you gotta know about Hubby, he like many men if he hadn’t had to go by ambulance that May day in 2009 to the hospital we would still not know what was going on, since he hated doctors and never ever wanted to go to one for any reason what’s so ever. And the last time before that one was when he was injured on the job way back in 2005, also a hospital issue.
He thought, since he felt fine that maybe he could ask to lower his dose or not take it as often or anymore… well, I said it takes a while to get out of your system and in fact it was still in it.
He did take it, but in reality with his blood pressure so good now and in check, he shouldn’t, in my opinion, change things. I subscribe to the adage “if its not broke don’t fix it”.
But if he does go to the doctor he should discuss it with him and perhaps they could wean him to a lower dose? It took quite a while to find what worked for him, months.
Now the problem is to get him to go back to the doctor… He knows it has to be soon though, since his medication is going to need refills soon. And Humana sent him his new card a couple of weeks ago, yep already! Remember he was with Universal Health Care that went under?
In the interim Medicare sent him all their information, but nothing as good as the insurance companies’ coverage, even the deductibles with them on office visits surgeries and medication etc; and all for only $104 a month.
I am so looking forward to my days of coverage like that!
Happy that our income has nothing to do with those future increases for the higher income brackets, but still even for them forty or fifty bucks a month more is not too bad when your income is 20K to 40K higher on up than ours.
As a wife, I will be happier when he makes his appointment, and no, he doesn’t make mine and I don’t make his. It’s not like I would mind, but he would and so I respect him and trust that he will. What else have I got?
Nagging never works with Hubbys or kids.
And so trust and hoping and praying that they do what they are supposed to do when at that certain age of accountability is all any woman has…

On that note of it is what it is… allow me to be the very first to wish all of you a very happy good night and ask you to kindly count all your blessings and share all those overages with whomever you know needs them and we will too!

And next time please be here or be square, ya hear?!

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