Tuesday, February 14, 2012

"Love means never ever having to say you're sorry", and all other hogwash!

Lovely sentiments and I read that book too, Love Story, when just a young gal, when Erich Segal wrote it and it was released in 1970 it became number one on the New York Times bestsellers list that year. But before that he was on The Johnny Carson Show now, The Jay Leno Show but still, really The Tonight Show and he told the synopsis on that night. The movie came out the same year, 1970.
What the author said, at that time is that it was a love story in a short book format or something like that; again not an exact quote and it sounded like something that I could put my mind around and make short work of it and so I did… during my lunchtimes while working at Lord and Taylor’s as a credit manager and a newly engaged young woman. It was a real tear jerker for any who haven’t read it, I do recommend it highly!
But what it told me then and what I have learned since seem to not exactly jive, but that was just a story, or a novella, not reality…
Sorry Mr. Segal, he may be rolling over in his grave with my reasoning here, I sure hope not! Yes, he did sadly pass away in January of 2010.

No husband on this planet would agree that you could ever get away without apologizing…Oh maybe that’s why the divorce rate has skyrocketed since that book came out, uh oh; a light-bulb just went off in my dim brain!
Could it be that all those lovers who never ever felt the need to apologize when they should have for some idiotic misdemeanor in the love game now find themselves; ALL ALONE? Who knows, but anything is possible… and I am more than sure that the character of Fonzi, played by actor Henry Winkler, during the 1980’s also may have caused some of this too… we all recall his difficulty with saying, I’m Sorry!
Geez, MEN!
Us gals usually whimp out and apologize at the drop of a hat, until recently we even did it when it wasn’t necessary, for dying!
Guess that’s why the lesbian population has grown, logically and perhaps male gay folks are more sensitive too, so the non insiders feel… but let’s get this one right…as human beings we must realize when we do something wrong and own up to it, male or female, that’s as simple as it gets, hmm?
And so that old statement should be, “Love is saying your sorry when you know that you should and even if someone else has to point it out to you!” Got that?

Life is not always smooth and we all know that being in love and being in it for the long haul are great reasons to know when not to misbehave and then miraculously you will never ever have to say that you are sorry! TA DA!

But even for the best of us that is a total impossibility, but become astute and know what is moot and what is not, and value that or your loved one with the respect that love demands… that’s all and that is an almost wise woman’s noticing of love of over forty years, actually forty-one with the same guy!


Yes, that is Hubby and me in the middle with our beautiful wedding party; circa 2-14-1971!

And on that well, allow me to be the first to wish you all a very happy good night and to ask you kindly to count all your blessings and to share your overages and we will too!
And next time please be here or be square, ya hear?

PS HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY, and make the most of it, please!

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