Friday, October 7, 2011

Feelings... and a charlatan's harsh words...

“Bitter
And unfriendly info therefore unfriended. Not sure why you were seeking friends to begin with.” (PS I do not recall requesting her to be my friend, oh well)
The above statement was sent to me this morning in the message section on Facebook.
This person who in her own personal info states that her educational back ground is from her businesses:
“Wholeistic University
Founder • May 2011 to present
University of Master Teachers for Entrepreneurs providing the Collective Wisdom: Where Business and Spirituality Meet!
Heart Wisdom
Focus on Demand Expert • Oct 2009 to present
Focus on Demand Expert -Business Intuitve - ICF Credentialed Coach -Identifies, Isolates & Removes Blockages -Transition of Careers, Roles, Life Stages, Company Cultures & Businesses. - Purpose Linked Organizations -Shifts the dynamics business & Life
Wholeistic University
University for Entrepreneurs combining Business and Spirituality http://www.WholeisticU.org
Carnelian Coaching, LLC
Chief Empowerment Officer • Jan 2007 to present
Professional Coach for businesses and individual's specializing in transitions.
Monmouth University
Class of 1980 • Psychology”
What brought all this on is that as many of you I am sure you too keep being invited to different things, which normally would be wonderful. But I have no ability to travel out of state any longer or abroad, which I have been asked to go too, any-who ( in this particular case to Atlanta, GA) or desire to go in some cases, and so I ask these people to: “Please my personal info on my profile page and thanks for your invite but.. you will see why...¬”¬ That should have been to ‘read’ my personal info, but I did a direct quote from what transpired.
And the response that opened my tonight’s dialogue is what I received back from this woman who should in my mind either laughed or been more compassionate to understand, mind you that is the first time anyone responded to what I wrote in my personal info in such a derogatory, mean way! Most laugh and realize that the whole thing was written with tongue in cheek humor, but not this sourpuss!
To say I have been upset most of today would be a vast understatement. And as you can well imagine I did respond to this so-called purveyor of positive healing products or words. In truth, I’m not quite clear on what she does do and at this point I do not really care to find out. If her idea was to be nasty and mean she accomplished that effect very admirably.
Below I will post my actually; about me from my online bio for you to judge if she was accurate in her reading of what I wrote.
Meanwhile my response to her at first was one of shock and hurt and so here it is, “you are the one who is confused goodbye Compassion , you lie! You have none!”
And my final comment: “PS, that was done 'tongue in cheek' and if you weren't... so serious and it appears that you have no sense of humor at all...for us who are nearly blind and cannot walk who have lived life to the fullest and continue to but not in your particular way that you believe to be the only way... what should people do only follow what you consider to be correct? I don't think so! And not to be proud of what they have already accomplished in life? And now feel they are just doing things at their own pace now... you are the sad and bitter person not I, since I still have my sense of humor!”

Here is the point of contention and apparently it has been misunderstood for the first time, but has been on my profile page for a few years now with me updating periodically… are you ready? Well, if you are not please hang on to something since unbeknownst to me it may be a bumpy nasty attitude ride! Or definitely not if your funny-bone is still intact… her vicious points of contention on this?

“Over the thirty-two years I did work I had been co-owner of three businesses, a wicker store in Toms River NJ, one restaurant in Ormond Beach FL and underground sprinkler business which was the second largest in NJ, plus I worked in promotion and advertising as well as being a district manager for an international environmentally safe products company, as a department and credit manager for Lord and Taylor’s in Ridgewood NJ, and a sales and floor manager for Ohrbachs in Paramus NJ. Not to mention nearly forty years on and off of working with non-profits as a volunteer. Almost any ill you can think of fund raising, as a board member, teaching classes, advocacy and co-president of support groups. Also with my husband with Boy Scouts when he was scouting co-coordinator for Ocean County NJ and assistant soccer coach and Fire Chief in NJ too. And if anyone was wondering I also had the privilege of visiting 40 US states and eight countries all before I married.

I have recently been informed since I am not in business anymore that this is just my personal Facebook page not a business page and I am retired actually real-tired, and NOT a realtor or a life coach or in marketing and do not need to sell my home in a short sale and have no authority to sell anyone else's that way either! LOL So now I have put my lack of ambitions right out there for all to see...this is purely for my selfish entertainment of learning about new and different people and their lives from all over the world and here at home in the USA! PS if I wanted to have someone tell me to be positive in life I would do it to myself in the mirror, where I would actually see and hear it! And so as much as I appreciate the goodwill you all seem to have in a jar from that stockroom called never ever give up, and all is always going to turn out all right...I have been there too, and from personal experience which my sixty plus years have given to me! So there! Please stop preaching to us in the choir gals and treating most of us like we don't know a thing. And if I wanted to be a millionaire don't you think that I would have done that by now? That is not the only answer to happiness... peace and quiet, good honest loving friends, and family that you actually care about and they about you are worth more than all of that moola!
Now you are all informed and this is my disclaimer to any other thoughts you may have had about me... so there! I just stuck my adult tongue out at you too!
I'm getting older and not much better and "disabled" with MS and arthritis, half blind and barely can walk, but otherwise, OK, now but still thinking, although some may question that concept.
I did also attend Paramus schools from kindergarten through my sophomore year of high school, but moved to Emerson and graduated from there in 1968 in NJ; then on to LIM. But have been living here in Florida since 1986, nine years on the east coast in Ormond Beach and then almost four in Punta Gorda and then over twelve in Port Charlotte.
I write a nightly Blog: see below for the link...
It is me at my best and worst! And it's all I got these days to feel really good about! That is that I can still think; I think! LOL!
PS: Now my Blog is called Speaking My Mind! The link below is my blog:
http://tobi-adayinthelife.blogspot.com/

Now you decide and let me know what you think of it all, but here’s the deal… if you like it, by all means let me know, if you don’t please keep it to yourself, OK?
Since my feelings are still rather frail tonight, gosh that is so unlike me!
Must be because I am older now and ill and… nah you know the rest…

On that bit of a pity party of injured feelings… allow me to be the first to wish you all a very happy good night and to ask you to kindly count all your blessings and to share those overages and we will too!

And next time please be here or be square, ya hear?

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