Monday, September 5, 2011

Where did common sense go?

Common sense is as most know being rational and reasonable, sound, coherent, valid and logical.
Is it something that is hard to do?
Should we all be watched and monitored to make proper decisions?
Is there ever a time where one’s choices should not be his or her own?
Sure, we know that deviation from so-called normal behavior is a red light for action to be taken to stop a person from doing harm to themselves or others.
But what about daily customary options, when should another step in?

Of course, you might remember when my mother-in-law was showing extreme problems with what we now know to be a dementia that would be a case for intervention as would any Alzheimer patient’s care too.

Children must at times, also should be steered to make the proper choices while growing into adulthood and most would believe that they learn best by setting a good example.
Unfortunately, not all parents are pillars of the community, what then?

I was fortunate to study a wee bit of child psychology while a student and as a parent except for reverse psychology being utilized quite effectively, little else I found to be useful.
Kids are as individual as problems can be and the way we attack anything in life may very well be also unique unto itself.

That’s why I must admit I parented by the seat of my pants! Although I did try a few parenting seminars the schools always provided for those who care to try them.

In my opinion most wanted to stifle the individuality of your child and were from the old school of not listening to them and you being the only voice they should hear.
While integrity is honesty, truthfulness, honor, veracity, uprightness and just plain old truth, why not go with that while teaching your youngins, huh?
To me it seems like it would be considered right; if I had a do over.
If any parent of adult people says that got it all right while raising their miniatures then, my friends, they would be lying!
No body is perfect and kids don’t come with instruction booklets!
And don’t tell me about any of that child psychology hogwash, because we all know that doesn’t work on real people!

All I know is that our miniature people grew into fairly well adjusted adults, well educated and decent, independent and lovable and kind and all that good stuff…
And it was no thanks to me! Maybe Hubby a bit but during those early years he was in and out more than me…working that is.
They did it, our sons on their own.
Knowing common sense cannot be taught, it’s either in you or not. Yep, right or wrong can be taught though and by the age of three they should all know it, if not, uh oh they and you are in for it big time!

Now relax with those youngins since we all know we forget to, and over obsess about too much minutia while they grow. Doesn’t do them any good or you either…

So on this nonsensical theory of mine, but valid in the respect it was tried and truly did turn out… fairly well… although parenting is never really done, and our subjects of this life experiment are merely 35 and 39 years of age and have years to go… as we do, Hubby and I too… tune in one never knows what’s next does one?

On that mysterious door ajar of what will happen next… allow me to be the first to wish you all a very happy good night and to ask you kindly to count all your blessings and to share all your overages and we will too!

And next time please be here or be square, ya hear?

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