Sunday, November 14, 2010

Quiet

Many think that ‘quiet’ is over-rated, but not me.
Now that I have gotten the hang of it I believe that I do it quite well.
Time was when I would be so sad because I couldn’t stand the too quiet atmosphere of our home.
But now … I reflect on all the craziness of my younger years, which I did eventually enjoy and say, whew boy that was great but this is good too!
How many empty nesters out there know what I am talking about?
Considering our youngest went away to college at the normal age of eighteen and he is now a few months from his thirty-fifth birthday we have had a long time to adjust.
And now I think I can. LOL!

So after our somewhat busy going out for fun day yesterday; today was a stay at home and relax day.
Well if doing laundry and preparing enjoyable healthy meals is relaxing then I did that.
Hubby mowed the lawn and did other yard intensive work.

How soon we all forget when we were doing those balancing acts we call ‘making a life for our family’.
Besides working fulltime and checking homework being a mommy-taxi, doing cooking and cleaning and book-keeping for home and business, you name it, we all have done it.
And so this did take time to adjust to.
Since even when that last child leaves for being on their own and comes back periodically to visit or do laundry or you go there to shop and clean for them or help them move or whatever…one of our sons moved five times while in college and we were there for every move and my helpful cleaning got his deposits back each and every time with compliments that they didn’t believe how a young guy could be so clean, and of course I said nothing because they told my son not me. The eldest commuted to college from our home and didn’t leave until he was nearly twenty-three and I told him I was joining his dad on the other Florida coast five and half hours from where we were living… He temporarily moved in with his brother then bought his own home. I had stayed back to try and sell our home but found out that the realtors could do it fine without me and it empty.
Little did I believe that having well educated resourceful sons would end their need for me, but in many ways it has, and that makes me very sad when I think about it too much, but relieved too that we created these wonderful beings of such capabilities.
Now I bet you all can relate if not now soon; since it is how it goes…
Children are on loan no one owns them, but if you’re lucky they shall return periodically with their own families that they too created since you taught them that, you can only hope…like I still do.

We did hear from our eldest, he and his main squeeze, wow does that show my age or what will be HERE for Thanksgiving! His gal or girlfriend or what is the proper name for adults with close relationships since he is nearly forty and she is?
They asked to take us out but we said we can manage since it’s only the four of us.
And who’s open for dinner on Thanksgiving anyway?
One year we did try that when we only had five of us for dinner and it was rather cold feeling and no leftovers either.
But I do understand that they know my condition and were trying to make it easier on me and his Dad, my Hubby. But we work well as a team and the joy of knowing they are coming down to visit is just the shot in the adrenalin maker I needed; I believe it’s the anticipation.
Love is like that.
Kids do that.

On that thought of a GREAT beginning to the holiday season I will wish you all the same to count those blessings and share those overages and we will too!

And next time please be here or be square, OK?

PS And dear younger son let me try again for you to know how much we miss seeing you!Perhaps someday that will change with you wanting to see us as much as we want to see you …since we will always love you too!

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