Friday, May 28, 2010

How many of you enjoy gardening?

Thought I would go with a lighter topic tonight, I’m sure it’s all right with you?

Personally, I used to be an avid gardener, and since Hubby’s retirement I have been trying to get him to love it as much as I once did. Both my grandfathers loved it and they were manly men too! Besides one of them actually lived into his nineties, since I also heard that gardening is quite healthful.
My limitations have taken that away somewhat my ability to move freely around the yard that is.
I have been lowered down to an occasional shrew like hateful person because I was at one time not allowing weeds, overgrown or dead plants to be a part of the landscape.
Whenever I went out the door I would keep up with my gardens and for that they always had a manicured look, but since my ills have taken me to this level that I cannot seem to get out of they have not had that devoted attention. Now you know why I want Hubby to take over. It’s much more pleasurable to see beauty when you go outside than weeds and death, that’s all I am saying.

Consequently, when I do leave the solitude of my indoor environment I tend to find critical landscape uglies that really bug me, and as you may have guessed by what I said in my previous statement I have no patience to wait for it to be fixed.

You see, Hubby does not see those little problems that I mentioned as problems or even as not aesthetically appealing but unfortunately I do.
Thus my non politenesses of critiquing the way things look.
Guilt goes along with the actual telling of how things look to me, but the filter for me on my brain has been gone unfortunately for years.
Whenever I think I should try to be less critical I think that I would then be lying.

My darling man of my life and soul is more tolerant of the dying in flora that is.
Tomato plants or dead branches or dead trees he feel need several months to recover while I hate looking at their shriveled uglies stems and bodies, I suppose I am more the euthanasia type, for plants that is. Put the thing out of its misery, PLEASE!
Dead is dead.

But to his good… it would be unfair not to mention that when I do say anything to Hubby about this or that in the yard he does seem to notice and take care of it, but I feel that he should notice these things without me having to say anything to him. It makes me feel ugly myself and too bossy too.

Just maintaining what we already have growing is the major job for him plus tending to the veggie garden which he had built from scratch with raised beds, arbor and trellis’s etc., he waters the plants nightly when we haven’t had rain mostly using the water from the rain barrels which is quite a job!
He mows the lawn, trims and blows away the grass on the walkways and fertilizes everything and sprays for bugs, pruning bushes and trees and dead removal etc. actually exhausting!
He used to only have the lawn to take care of but even in the old days I would fertilize that at one time!
It saddens me not being able to do my part anymore, and frustrates me at the same time too.
I thought I had devised a plan to be of some help.
We have one of those rolling garden caddy carts that you can move around the yard and inside it hold tools or seeds and the like, and then you move it to where you want to work in the garden and it is a seat when closed.
But Hubby would have to place it where I would be working and it would be up to me to get there by walker or scooter, and he felt it was too complicated and it would be easier for him just to do it, and so I gave in and that was a few years ago and now I still can only watch and sometimes wait from inside or on the patio seated there.

Being once a type ‘A’ personality in business management I truly hate being on the sidelines!

Any-who, this morning we went grocery shopping and no pool today for me, but yesterday I was in for an hour.

I would like right now to wish you all a very good night and wish you all a safe and happy holiday weekend, find time to count those blessings and we will too!

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