Friday, May 8, 2009

The swimming pool calls to me...

Finally the temperature of our swimming pool is where it should be in the mid eighties, and for the last week I could only stare at it with my annoying UTI but now this weekend I will definitely think about taking the plunge since I finished my last Cipro last night!

The day had been interesting with adding new friends to my Face book page, and reading their profiles has been nothing less than amazing!
Most all of them have become quite successful in many different types of professions, another lawyer, nurse, CEO of his own company, and a graphic artist so far impressive to say the least.
And imagine these are people I mostly knew from kindergarten, and a few from toddler-hood, fascinating, and I am proud to be called their friend. Everyone is married and many have grandchildren too, I am a little jealous of that. Always thought by now I would be a grandparent actually about fifteen years ago, since we did have our sons while still in our twenties, and we are now pushing sixty, not that far off.
I always looked forward to grandparenthood without any of fear of that age thing. My idea of being one would be just like my parents were, they were really great; in their eyes our boys could do no wrong, and they would happily spoil them lovingly and send them home! No set of second parents there with foolish discipline; love is all they felt they needed and did not ration that one bit or gifts either.
I miss them both terribly quite often.
It is a few days early but this time of the year is difficult since they are both gone and with Mother’s Day right around the corner and the fact that my Dad died on Mother’s Day, that year it being on May 11.1986 doesn’t make it any easier. Last year it fell right on that date, so it was real bad for me.

I do know there are many who probably feel as I do with missing their own parents and having their own children far away. We should support one another and make each other not feel so sad. Knowing we are not alone sometimes helps.

I also know many who opted not to have children and miss their parents severely at this time and to me I get it, really I do! We all need to not feel bad about feeling the way that we do when we do. As human beings we have that right to grieve in whatever way we wish to without being told to buck up or get over it that is what separates us from the lesser creatures, although in reality I think they feel emotions too.
They have that power to grieve for us or for one of their loved ones too, I have seen it first hand.

On that grist of fodder for the brain or whatever … please know as during the Christmas/ Chanukah time of year Mother’s Day and Father’s Day can produce that same type of sadness for some of us. The best one can do is to be there for the ones you care about and let them have those feelings without criticism.

Good night to all and to all count those blessings and I will too!

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