Thursday, March 12, 2009

Feeling awkward is an interesting thing to be investigated

Awkward, is an interesting thing.
Today as more and more of us know people going into difficult situations like job loss and foreclosures we as humans, with a heart, seem to have something that can only be compared to as ,“survivors guilt” if you are not in that same situation.
Talking to anyone about being happy about anything that feels like it is a horrible awful secretive thing that should not be exposed for fear of hurting others feelings.
I know I keep asking you all to find the happy in life, but if you are homeless, foodless, moneyless and jobless that’s like saying to someone with a terminal illness to find the good in that.
Sensitivity to others personal difficulties makes me so sad and useless.
Do we not all need a vacation from our negative truths in life?

Escapism is what we need for short respites to perhaps take a more objective look at our own problems.
Those of you without problems are not real, and fooling yourself by being in denial, but whatever works for you I say! But honestly there is no one that has not one thing that they can claim to cause them grief on occasion or even more often than that.
Got that?
Life if we live it will be difficult that’s a given, but how we handle it is our own doing.

I, myself went through one six month period where my home was robbed, I miscarried a baby in my fourth month , my husband lost his job, and topped off those horrors with my Mom dying in eleven and a half hours from her first and only stroke.
So when I say I have been there, done that; I am not kidding!
Coping mechanisms are something that cannot be taught.
Parents can set an example on how they handle these hard times and our own histories of previous experiences are in themselves a learning time on handling these things.
It is truly a trial and error, whatever works project, but remember to never give up and keep trying. Even when everything fails, at least in your heart you will have the benefit of knowing that you tried everything you could.
I have been learning all these years and will continue to hopefully learn more.
They used to call this type of learning, “ the school of hard knocks”, and so as we all do know that nothing is new in all this, it has happened before, but what is different its happening to you, you and you.
And I am so sad for that, but powerless to change it.

Please do something nice for someone.
We were on line in the grocery not long ago and the woman in front of us with a young child was only a few cents short of her bill, and we noticed her struggling to find the pennies I told my husband to give it to her.
It was only a few cents and my husband said if I weren’t with him he might not have done it being an old man offering to pay for a younger woman’s bill. He felt it might have been taken the wrong way, and unfortunately he is right.
I only wish we could have done more…she thanked us profusely.
It actually made us feel better than perhaps she felt.
So try and do anything, step up to the plate and without fear or shame just, Nike it!
Do it!

Good night to all and to all count those blessings and I will too.

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