Thursday, January 1, 2009

I take it back

People are getting divorced for reasons that ARE important to them, and who am I to say that they should try harder.
After all, there is a whole generation out there that went through hell and back trying to explain their reasoning for their particular situation for not working out for them, and that caused their families aggravation and personal grief in contending with the wrongful shame of the world that, at that time way back in the 1950’s didn't want or care to be supportive.
I suppose I had a narrow view of reasons for such an extreme ending to a love match, and if they were in an abusive or an addictive relationship that was the design of what my thoughts were for a good reason for opting out only.
That is so not me with other things.
On so many occasions I have wondered why others were so black and white in their thinking when I always considered myself to be gray in my thoughts of seeing both sides equally, and trying hard to find a middle ground; and at times making me look a bit wishy washy and indecisive.
And so if I have offended anyone with my particular Blogs of stating in anyway that divorce was a cop out, I do apologize to everyone now and forever.
If I fall off the wagon of trying hard not to be so critical and opinionated of others choices you have the right to inform me.
Life is hard enough without someone telling you what you do is not right.

I guess you are wondering if that was one of my New Year’s resolutions, and the answer is no.
But to be honest over the last several years I have been making an effort to simplify my life.
Less stress that way.
What I have decided once I got a handle on this not working thing and not feeling like a burden or a bum, since I did work from the age of twelve until the age of 44 on and off while raising our sons.
Happiness inwardly is the best medicine for anyone, and so it is what I strive for.
Any way that you can find to do that for yourself from watching a sunset or even awaking early for a sunrise those are the things that are priceless and monetarily free to all who chose to imbibe.
It’s the stop, and smell the rose’s idea.
Clearly we all need to think positive thoughts and hopefully that will give us the ability to change things for the better in this coming year or if not change to accept that which we have no control over.

As we all are I am a work in progress too.
So imperfection is a very human trait.
My father used to tease that he was perfect, of course he wasn’t, but he was close.
Now I hear my hubby claim the same quality too, and to me don’t tell him, since it would only go to his head, he is close too.
It’s a man thing to be so arrogant or confident, there is a very fine line between the two, and we women poo poo it since most of us are insecure a little if not; at times way too much.

Men don’t seem to worry about cellulite, a pouch in the belly, and lines in the corners of their eyes or even gray or balding heads, not like us anyway.
They can pass a mirror and see perfection, us, on the other hand see our flaws.
There has to be a scientific way to explain it other than we are from Venus and they are from Mars or is the other way around; I always get that mixed up.

Anyway, the men are not as critical of physical attributes on themselves, but they do find many other people with imperfections oddly enough.
And do not fear saying what they think…
That is a little like me and my problem of foot in mouth disease…This year I will try harder to think before I speak or write anything that will offend anyone, OK?

Now boring is not what I expect to be but we all travel a fine line with politeness, and today and from this day forward we should all strive to be kind.
Who knows what misery others are going through?
So this year we should make a concerted effort to be a more considerate more glass half full and listening and understanding nation to get through whatever this year will be bring. We have been told the worst is yet to come, before we get the better.

Good night to all and to all think before you talk or write and I will too!

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