Friday, July 25, 2008

Smart Friends

When it comes to choosing friends there are all different types of criteria they might need to meet for your liking.
Some young people will chose according to the popularity of a person, attractiveness, wealth, or smarts i.e. academic or street.

I personally somehow always leaned towards people seeking me out, which left me in my early years, and occasionally since with a mish mosh of different kinds of friends. And with that reality they have been unique, and if I did make it a personal choice I don't think I could have done any better than the ones that I do have today.

As I got older, in my late teens it was rather interesting how all my friends were so good looking that one of my best friends in my wedding party, when I was just 20 myself, I thought that she looked better than me, the bride! I was even accused by a cousin that was how I chose my bridesmaids that they were chosen by there looks. But in truth the one that looked better than me was my best friend from the time we were in 8th grade, and the other two were my future sister-in-law, and my teenage niece, people that meant the most to me at that time; as it should have been. They couldn't help the fact they were also good looking! PS: My niece later became a physicist.
The cousin who accused me didn't even know me or would have known that, and she thought that she should have been chosen.

Anyway, that was not always the way things were. While in college I not only had attractive friends but one of my best friends had graduated high school at sixteen and was part of a New York city think tank! Great study buddy!

After I became a married woman and we owned our first home, a townhouse that seemed to be the case again. I seemed to gravitate to attractive smart people. I became best friends with a woman who had graduated college at 20 and taught school for a few years before becoming a mom, her husband was the youngest CPA for the state of New York, at just 23 years old.

Even as an older person I've had friends that were professors, belonged to MENSA, and such.

Perhaps, that's why in my mind I never feel smart enough, but I do enjoy learning from these people.

In short I believe that smart friend are the best. Smarts last; looks don't. LOL :-)

Positive smart friends test you or make brilliant suggestions to you like reading for enjoyment, AHA!

That was my school teacher mom friend, and that is when I started to devour books for the sole purpose of pleasure. After all those necessary school reads there were actually genres of interest to me in the fiction arena!
Voracious, became my middle name on how I began reading, and at that time joined all those book clubs. Hardcovers were sent to the house monthly, but by now I was a mom, and we had balance by biking, swimming, camping, and of course reading with my little darlings.
Literary Guild was one of the first book clubs I joined and with your membership you received a free canvas tote with the initials LG on it. I used it as a diaper bag, and told my son the initials were for little guy! He laughed heartily.

Update: Today I was back in the pool for a whole 45 min. tomorrow who knows could be an hour!

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