Friday, March 22, 2013

Extreme violence all over the news and then there is too much...


…Of those celebrity breakups of long lasting relationships for months, some as long as two years! I can’t take all this abuse! And misuse of the media of the real news. Sure it is vulgar, gory, and hard to understand why, but…I do know that reality TV can handle those, so-called ‘celebrity’ misguided ‘relationships’ that are too short to call with them actually just hanging out and in together, what????? Many make babies and move on. What is wrong with the olde fashioned idea of getting married then making babies after that? I know, I know too old fashioned. Or the idea of getting divorced is too expensive or child support is too? But they all know that you still have to pay either way! I hate when I hear separate this and separate that when they marry to me that is as if they're planning for a divorce in the near future. I used to not understand the hyphenated last name thingy either, but with me I finally got it. It isn’t for the future of the termination of the marriage to go back to just one last name; many want to keep their own identity! Excuse me, I am still me although forty-two years ago I took my husband’s last name folks, any one who knows me for all these years can tell you that is definitely a given! Although, I did feel when my father died and he had had no male children that I would use my maiden name for a middle name and it appears on many legal documents to this day. My half brother via my mom’s ex-husband maintained his father’s name even though when my father wanted to adopt him at the age of nine and tried to get his real father to sign the papers for that, but he wouldn’t… Sounds very noble and loving, hmm? But the rest of that story is he had nothing to do with his son at all after that or really before. He was a philandering musician and that is why my mom divorced him, he married five times after that and that was the rest of that story! To this day I have no idea if any or all of that is true since I never questioned any of it and all parties involved in it are long gone. My dad was one of the good guys, everyone loved him, and so I tend to believe it all. And that ex of my mom's contacted my dad when my mom passed away at age seventy to see if my mom had left him anything? People, have their reasons. My dad to me was a sad case, a widower at age thirty-one, who had a wife that loved to swim and had died doing it; she drowned in a competitive race. He married my mom three years later, a divorcee of twenty-nine, with a son of nine that was 3-9-1941. They stayed married until the day my mom died 2-15-1982, you do the math. And three years later he married his neighbor for just one year and then he died. What happened to love is forever? We are going on our forty-third year, live and be well… I know that like my mom who married at eighteen and had a son at twenty she never thought that was going to be her lot in life, to divorce…a cheating man. Sure there are cheating women and abusive ones in both sexes, drugs and alcohol plays a big part in ending many loving matches, but they all can’t know that when they marry? I think that they should ask? Take a test. It’s just like bad parents, no test, there should be. We have tests for just about everything else but those two most important jobs on the planet, being a spouse and a parent! Sure we think we know if we had parents who came before us who we felt had both jobs all together but most don’t have that perfection as we all know. We should start a campaign to fix this and then perhaps all the rest would not be needed to be discussed, what do you say folks? And lest us never forget to try as hard as we can to stay together when none of my above reasons for splitting are involved, none of this growing apart baloney, try harder to grow together… interview him/her before you commit with rings and things like adorable accoutrements called offspring’s! (Except Angie and Brad, they seem to have it all alright, no wait, them too!)  On that note of a really sharp great note, allow me to be the very first to wish all of you a very happy good night and kindly count all your blessings and we will too! And next time please be here or be square, ya hear!?

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